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Under Pressure: The Undefined Head Center in Your Kids' Human Design | Human Design Parenting Series

As this is the first center in the series, I want to welcome you to the RHBD - Raising Humans By Design - Blog Series. When I first got into Human Design, I always knew I would use it most when I became a parent. Human Design parenting, parenting by design, is just such a cool way to help nurture our kiddos in a way that allows their authenticity, and therefore them, to thrive. Recently, I've found that my brain and fingers have been longing to be put to use in creating more long-form content that allows me to really dive in the way my first line prefers. So without further adieu, let's dive into the wild world of the Undefined Head Child.

If your kiddo has an undefined head, it means the very top center (triangle) in their chart is white.

But before we get too ahead of ourselves, let's understand what the head center is on its own. It is one of two pressure centers that move the energy along in our chart. It provides the mental pressure we need to be able to understand the world around us by driving us to ask questions, doubt what is presented to us, and search for truth by coming to understand the big mysteries of the world.

It is where (and how) we find inspiration and where we start fueling the conceptualization process. It is the maker of questions, while the ajna is the finder of (mental) answers.

If you or your kiddo have it defined in your chart, you have a consistent flow of thoughts and inspiration, it is energy that is yours - not influenced by the outside world. You have consistent pressure to understand, and the ability to handle this pressure as you also have a consistent way of conceptualizing. You often have a specific perspective and a specific drive behind why you want to know what you want to know.

A white triangle with a yellow outline represents the undefined head center in Human Design. It has a smiley face and arms outstretched.

If it is undefined, this energy is inconsistent and will be influenced by the outside world. You will take in inspiration, thoughts, and questions from everything and everyone around you. You have the gift of being able to see many possibilities and perspectives, and it is one of the areas where you can become deeply wise. You do not have a consistent way of handling mental pressure and the often incessant drive to seek and understand, which can be overwhelming.

With an undefined head, your kiddo will have these common characteristics:

  • They may ask lots of questions.

  • Be a bit of a “wonder ball” - really driven to understand the unknown.

  • They may be constantly ideating, taking in the world around them, and being deeply inspired by it.

  • They will feel an immense pressure to understand (which is what is fueling the questions & wonder).

  • They may be prone to doubt, again being fueled by the pressure to really understand something.

  • They will seek answers, stimulation & inspiration.

  • They will be mentally flexible and also experience quite a bit of mental pressure.

  • They will have the ability to think creatively.

As they learn to become wise in this energy they will grow into:

  • Being able to manage the pressure of the unknown & be at peace with its vastness.

  • Letting go of needing answers to every question.

  • Detaching from ideas, owning their idea & pursuing every idea.

  • Trusting their S&A to show them what inspiration to follow instead of pursuing every thought, question, or idea

  • Recognize when they are seeking answers to questions that are not theirs to answer or are unimportant, and leave them unanswered.

A white triangle with a yellow outline represents the undefined head center in Human Design. It has a stressed out face and its hands on its head representing stress.

Some challenges your kiddo may experience:

  • They may be quite distractible. As they take in the world around them and find inspiration, it's easy to lose focus or sight of the questions that are actually theirs to answer.

  • The pressure to understand can be very overwhelming, especially if they have an undefined ajna and lack a consistent way to process things, and they can develop anxiety over the unknown.

  • Having their ideas shut down. Having a toddler or kiddo ask constant questions can be overstimulating and overwhelming for adults, but constantly shutting down their ideas or “I wonders” may stifle the beautiful qualities of the undefined head.

  • While they will learn to understand that “I don't know” IS a valid answer, the pressure to understand can be a lot. If they are left in constant wonder, it may create a kind of insecurity that actually leads them to feel crushed by the weight of the mental pressure

  • Having questions be discouraged or not feeling safe enough to ask their questions and wonder- they are natural question askers. This is part of who they are! They need to feel encouraged and safe to ask their questions and feel heard.

  • Feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to seek, unable to focus or settle until the questions are answered. With so much going on in their head it can be hard to find a focus. They may find it hard to unwind at night with the flood of questions coming into their head (some quite silly ones).

  • Being patient as some answers take longer than others - they often feel the need to know RIGHT now.

Here’s how you can support them:

  • Encourage their creativity.

  • Let them pursue their ideas + ask their questions (if all day every day is too much for you to constantly provide answers - and/or you don’t have gate 4 ;) - I suggest setting up a wonder wall. A place for their questions to live until the answers come in time. This is one of the greatest lessons they can learn, that the answers will come…in due time.

  • If they’re overwhelmed by the vastness of the unknown or succumbing to the pressure to know or have answers - give them space to empty out through creative expression and movement.

  • Help them to literally get out of their head! They may need support in moving on or waiting for an answer. Help them to regulate and find peace in their process - maybe they need to shake out that frenetic or hyper-pressurized energy, scribble or get outside.

As they grow you can gently guide them as they embark on the journey to these lessons, but also be mindful that experience is the greatest teacher when it comes to undefined centers. So be aware of how you are guiding them in their process. You don’t want to be overbearing or try to control their outcomes, it’s their lives, it's their stories, it’s their conditioning journey. But you can help them learn to cope and handle the conditioning as it comes and help guide them back to and learn to work with their natural energy.

Play + Toys that may support the undefined head:

  • Open-ended play that lets them evolve and shift as they take in inspiration from around them

  • Anything creative really, especially when feeling overwhelmed

  • Making something out of nothing - give them some tools and let their imagination run wild. If they feel stuck or don’t have inspiration at that moment you can give a few prompts, or books that help get things going.

  • Imaginative play

  • Movement, dance, etc. to help get the pressure out, ground them back into their body

  • A “wonder wall” - notecards with their big questions, that you can go back to and help them research and find their answers to.

If you want to learn more about the undefined head center and how it shows up for your kiddo, including information about the gates, planets, electromagnetics, and more - stay tuned for an all-inclusive guide coming soon!



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